I’ve noticed that I get hornier than usual right before my period. More, more, MORE horny. It seems to get more pronounced as I get older, too. I’m in my early 30s, so what’s going to happen five years from now? Three years from now? NEXT MONTH?
This month I was really horny for four days straight; in fact, that’s how I knew my period was on it’s way. It’d been off-calendar because I was stressed with work last month and I’m always late when I’m stressed. All the rubbing out I found myself doing last week was one hot tip-off.
There isn’t a lot of information about this phenomenon — that is to say, not a lot of medical research. That’s weird and I can’t explain it, especially when it’s not like I’m not the only one in the world!
Dr. Katherine O’Connell White, AKA the advice columnist for Glamour Magazine, Dr. Kate, says:
“Libido is a strange, enigmatic thing… There haven’t been a lot of studies looking at the connection between women’s libido and hormones at various points in the menstrual cycle, but some research has shown a spike in lust around the time we ovulate, mid-cycle (which is when evolutionary forces would have us engage in intercourse to get pregnant). That said, there are many fluctuations in the different sex hormones throughout the month, and these changes are different for every woman.”
Then she posed the question:
“Readers, have you noticed this about yourselves? How does getting your period affect your own libido?”
But there were no comments at the end of the article. What the fuck?
I can only describe what happened to me last week as The Lost Long Weekend (it lasted four days, starting on a Wednesday, but let’s not get technical). I’d wake up and check my email in bed. Then I’d check Facebook, then Twitter. It’s my ritual before I officially start my day. I was hard pressed to even get out of bed with all the heat under the sheets. I reached for my computer again and went straight for the porn. Frankly, I don’t look at porn very often. I usually feel it’s too much work to find something that really appeals to me, and if I’m with someone, something that appeals to both of us (thanks to ladies like Lucie Blush, there is hope!). But for four days I ate it up. Everything. I’d watch one video after another, after another, after another. It went on from 10:00am and I didn’t get out of bed until three. Good thing, as a freelancer, I’m my own boss. I can jill off all day if I want to.
On Thursday I shopped online for new sex toys. I was excited to use them solo, but I was mostly thinking about using them with partners. I have a Bullet in my “collection”… That’s the extent of my collection. I dropped $200 on at Babeland and Good For Her, sponsors of the 2014 Feminist Porn Awards, which I covered. UPS promises delivery within a week.
By Saturday I got bored. I felt like I’d watched everything. I still got off; I had my partner (who was out of town) and two other boys to fantasize about since we have an open relationship. I wasn’t even interested in calling anyone though. No “Come over, NOW.” This was My Time.
My period hit Sunday morning, the horniness faded away. So I’m looking forward to this time next month and I’m sure as fuck keeping an eye on that UPS tracker.