Ever so often I will see a man, who look-wise, style-wise and personality-wise has all the right qualities that could easily make a woman fall for him. But then he opens his mouth, and all is lost. Some men just can’t help themselves. They seem to be terrible in the picking up women business. They get so close and yet, somehow, they blunder it. I’m here to help out lads. I’ve identified some of the mistakes you make when you’re trying too hard to pick up a girl:
Not taking a hint
I know you’d like to believe that all women are out on the prowl when we’re out with the gals, but this, alas, isn’t true. When we’re out with the girls, sometimes (not all the time), we’re really just out with the girls – to catch up, to dance (this is a big one! Boy, do we love to dance), to have some drinks and just basically girl bond. You know the times when you boys wanna hang with the boys? It’s the same with girls too. So if you see that the girl you’re hitting on isn’t really paying attention, take a hint and leave with dignity.
As much as you might think that you are a lothario after a few drinks, let me just stop you right there. Sure, we all could use a drink or two to help us relax and the conversation flow. But if you’re slurring, can’t form a sentence and people are slowly backing away from you, you’ve drunk too much mate! No (sane) girl will respond to your drunken flirting techniques. Not only is it annoying, it also gives off the impression that you don’t know when to stop and when it comes to safety, your judgement will be impaired, and we don’t want to have to deal with your shit.
Wrong Place, wrong time
Men seem to misread the signs so easily. When you see a girl sitting alone, reading, not looking around, just minding her own business, this isn’t your cue to swoop in and chat her up. Nor is it in the gym, when she’s all sweaty, without makeup, not looking her best. There’s a right time and place lads. And sure, you can test the waters with a smile, nod, hello, whatever. But learn to read the signs, if she’s not acting interested thats because she isn’t. Don’t be that guy!
Now that you know what you’re doing wrong, hopefully this will improve your game for the future! Let me know how it goes!