Sometimes things get a little harder than we want. I’m sure we don’t mind a little bit of a challenge but everyone gets tired of the hustle every once in a while and needs some time to recuperate. At times like this it’s important to surround yourself with supportive people, be they family or friends (because not all family will be the support that you need in your life). Along with that, here are five more things you can do to turn your life around…
End a toxic relationship
Sometimes the fear of being alone makes us stay in a relationship that is clearly not good for us. If you think that your relationship is not affecting everything else in your life, then you’ve got something else coming mister. If your relationship is making you unhappy, it’s time to take a deep breath and end it. And I’m not talking about just your significant other; this also includes friends, family and even co-workers. Life’s just too short!
Focus on improving one thing
You might believe that nothing is going right in your life and that in order to be happy you’ll need to make a whole lot of changes. While it might be true that some changes need to occur in your life, trying to tackle them all at once is going to be overwhelming and a sure fire way to quit halfway. Instead, list down all the things you feel you want to change or need to change. And focus on improving one thing at a time. So for instance, if you want to go to the gym more, quit smoking, drink less and sleep more, pick one thing first. Like say you commit to going to the gym three times a week. For a whole month (or two) only focus on getting yourself to the gym even if all you do is 20 minutes of running. The point is to start creating a habit. When you’re sure that you go to the gym without much force on your part, add on another goal.
Learn to say “No”
Maybe you want to stay in for a change instead of hitting the clubs again. Or maybe you don’t want to spend a Sunday scrounging the flea market for another antique table. Or maybe you really can’t take on another report because it means staying in overtime again. Boundaries are really hard to set and stick to, especially if we’re constantly worrying that we’re going to let others down. But personal boundaries are super important. Show that you value yourself and learn to say “No” to things. Your real friends will understand. Promise.
There is nothing like a little bit of volunteering that will take you out of your own ass quite as quickly. When you’re serving soup to people who have next to nothing, it really puts your own problems into perspective – and helps give you a big dose of gratitude for all that you do have.
Get out of your comfort zone
Ah, the good ol’ comfort zone, home to many. Sometimes just shaking things up a little is all that you need to add a little pizazz into your life. Go on that weekend hike! Climb that mountain! Say yes to that new job you’re scared to take! Go and ask that girl in the coffee shop out! After all, as Neale Donald Walsch said, life begins at the end of your comfort zone.